Parts Work
We often think of ourselves as a single, unified person, but when we look more closely at our experience, we notice distinct inner voices, emotions, and impulses. These “parts” might show up as conflicting feelings, inner critics, perfectionists, protectors, or younger versions of ourselves that still carry old beliefs or emotions. Parts work sees these inner experiences not as problems, but as meaningful expressions of what we’ve lived through.
Instead of trying to push these parts away or override them, parts work invites us to meet them with interest. Each part has its own perspective, emotion, or concern, shaped by our experiences. When we slow down and listen, we begin to understand what these parts are trying to offer us. Often, even the patterns that feel uncomfortable or confusing are attempts—sometimes outdated, sometimes protective—to help us navigate life as best they can.
The Role of the Self
At the center of this work is the core Self: a grounded, compassionate presence within you. In IFS (Internal Family Systems), the Self isn’t another part—it’s the steady awareness that can listen, lead, and integrate your experience. From this grounded presence, clarity and understanding unfold naturally. The Self doesn’t force change; it creates the conditions where parts can be acknowledged and naturally find their way back into harmony.
How Parts Work Helps
Working with your parts can help you:
• Untangle inner conflicts
• Feel more grounded and connected to your body
• Understand the roots of overwhelm or reactivity
• Live with more courage, confidence, and creativity by being Self-led
One small but powerful practice in parts work is how we frame our experience.
Saying, “A part of me is angry,” instead of “I’m angry,” may seem subtle, but it creates space. It helps us step out of full identification with the feeling and stay connected to other parts that may hold care, humour, or sadness. With this space, we can turn toward the angry part, ask what it’s concerned about, and understand what it’s trying to offer or alert us to. The feeling no longer takes us over—but informs and strengthens us.
When our parts feel acknowledged, we begin to see our lives with greater clarity and compassion. Parts work doesn’t aim to “fix” you. It helps you get to know yourself more fully, allowing your inner world to move toward balance and coherence.
Within each of us is a natural wisdom and a deep pull toward wholeness. Parts work is a way of returning to that wholeness and living from a grounded, courageous presence.